You can achieve a high libido naturally by following the following guidelines.
1. Eat nutritious and energetic foods like celery, raw oysters, eggs, liver, bananas, avocado, nuts, mangoes, peaches, strawberries, figs, garlic, and chocolate. Take a healthy diet rich in proteins and limited in carbohydrates and moderate in essential fats. Carbohydrates specially those that consist of simple sugars such as potatoes increase insulin and cortisol levels in your blood which affects testosterone production negatively.
2. Exercise regularly to maintain your weight. Obesity is a risk factor for erectile dysfunction and low testosterone. By eating well and exercising you can in increase testosterone product and thus an increase in libido. The ideal period to workout is 45-60 minutes in a single routine. Any more than that and your body start producing cortisol, which inhibits and diminishes testosterone production in your body.
3. Avoid saturated fat as it can lead to clogging of the arteries which in turn can impede blood flow to the genital region. This not only interferes with your ability to perform, but also with sexual pleasure.
4. Try to live a stress free life. If you feel good and self confident you may feel more sexual and attractive to your partner. A relaxed state of mind is very important for elevating your libido.
5. Proper sleep is also important in keeping you strong and energetic in bed. So maintain a consistent sleep schedule. A good sleep helps you raise your sex drive substantially.
6. Say no to alcohol and cigarette. They actually reduce the production of testosterone in men. Drunken sex might be fun while you are young but it just doesn't work as you get older.
One of the most important secrets in learning how to increase libido lies in understanding common root causes for a low sex drive. To get complete information on how to improve male libido, be sure to grab the ebook - Anytime...for As Long As You Want. Heat up your sex life!
Natural Ways to Improve Male Libido
Monday, February 16, 2009Great Inspirational Life Quotes
Sunday, February 15, 2009
1. "Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards."
2. "Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today."
3. "The purpose of life is a life of purpose."
4. "Growth is the only evidence of life."
5. "True religion is real living; living with all one's soul, with all one's goodness and righteousness."
6. "The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn."
7. "And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."
8. "Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions. And the actions which speak louder than the words. It is making the time when there is none. Coming through time after time after time, year after year after year. Commitment is the stuff character is made of; the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism."
9. "Live a life as a monument to your soul."
10. "The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man."
11. "Life is a great big canvas; throw all the paint you can at it."
12. "The best portion of a good man's life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love."
13. "Education is the best provision for the journey to old age."
14. "Contemplate thy powers, contemplate thy wants and thy connections; so shalt thou discover the duties of life, and be directed in all thy ways."
15. "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted."
16. "The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted thirty years of his life."
17. "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler."
18. "To be able to look back upon one's life in satisfaction is to live twice."
19. "Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves."
20. "One thing life taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you. When you are genuinely interested in one thing, it will always lead to something else."
Love Quotations
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread. ~Mother Teresa
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. ~Albert Einstein
There is no surprise more magical than the surprise of being loved. It is God's finger on man's shoulder. ~Charles Morgan
You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip. ~Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"
Ah me! love can not be cured by herbs. ~Ovid
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. ~Eric Fromm
Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving. ~Kahlil Gibran
Infatuation is when you think he's as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody Allen, and as athletic as Jimmy Conners. Love is when you realize that he's as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Connors, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger and nothing like Robert Redford - but you'll take him anyway. ~Judith Viorst, Redbook, 1975
Love is only a dirty trick played on us to achieve continuation of the species. ~W. Somerset Maugham, A Writer's Notebook, 1949
Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars, 1939, translated from French by Lewis Galantière
When love is not madness, it is not love. ~Pedro Calderon de la Barca
Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river. ~Malagasy Proverb
Do I love you because you're beautiful,
Or are you beautiful because I love you?
~Richard Rodgers and Oscar Hammerstein II, Cinderella
For you see, each day I love you more
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
~Rosemonde Gerard
Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate! ~Sandra J. Dykes
Love is much like a wild rose, beautiful and calm, but willing to draw blood in its defense. ~Mark Overby
Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end. ~Author Unknown
Love - a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker. ~Author Unknown
Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~Proverb
The lover is a monotheist who knows that other people worship different gods but cannot himself imagine that there could be other gods. ~Theodor Reik, Of Love and Lust, 1957
Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. ~Peter Ustinov
Hate leaves ugly scars, love leaves beautiful ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.
~William Shakespeare, Mid-Summer Night's Dream, 1595
The art of love... is largely the art of persistence. ~Albert Ellis
Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that. ~Michael Leunig
Who would give a law to lovers? Love is unto itself a higher law. ~Boethius, The Consolation of Philosophy, A.D. 524
Who, being loved, is poor? ~Oscar Wilde
Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame. ~Henry David Thoreau
Without love, what are we worth? Eighty-nine cents! Eighty-nine cents worth of chemicals walking around lonely. ~Laurence Marks, M*A*S*H, "Love Story," original air date 7 January 1973, spoken by the character Hawkeye
A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it. ~Frank A. Clark
Shall we compare our hearts to a garden -
with beautiful blooms, straggling weeds,
swooping birds and sunshine, rain -
and most importantly, seeds.
~Grey Livingston
Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. ~Robert Heinlein
The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain singing to it. You and you alone make me feel that I am alive. Other men it is said have seen angels, but I have seen thee and thou art enough. ~George Moore
We loved with a love that was more than love. ~Edgar Allan Poe
If I love you, what business is it of yours? ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
The hardest-learned lesson: that people have only their kind of love to give, not our kind. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire. ~François Duc de La Rochefoucauld
My debt to you, Belovèd,
Is one I cannot pay
In any coin of any realm
On any reckoning day.
~Jessie B. Rittenhouse
We choose those we like; with those we love, we have no say in the matter. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands. ~Quoted by Alexandra Penney in Self
Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. ~Jean Anouilh
When a man is in love or in debt, someone else has the advantage. ~Bill Balance
Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly. ~Rose Franken
Love is the magician that pulls man out of his own hat. ~Ben Hecht
A bell is no bell 'til you ring it,
A song is no song 'til you sing it,
And love in your heart
Wasn’t put there to stay -
Love isn’t love
'Til you give it away.
~Oscar Hammerstein, Sound of Music, "You Are Sixteen (Reprise)"
(Thanks, Krystel)
Love is like dew that falls on both nettles and lilies. ~Swedish Proverb
Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity. ~Henry Van Dyke
Love is much nicer to be in than an automobile accident, a tight girdle, a higher tax bracket or a holding pattern over Philadelphia. ~Judith Viorst, Redbook, 1975
Passion makes the world go round. Love just makes it a safer place. ~Ice T, The Ice Opinion, quoted in Reader's Digest, "Quotable Quotes," February 2002
Love is no respecter of age or practicality
Neither morality: unabashed
She enters where she will
Unheeding that her immortal fires
Burn up human hearts...
~Phillip Pulfrey, from Beyond Me, www.originals.net
Love is an ocean of emotions entirely surrounded by expenses. ~Lord Dewar
When you're in love you never really know whether your elation comes from the qualities of the one you love, or if it attributes them to her; whether the light which surrounds her like a halo comes from you, from her, or from the meeting of your sparks. ~Natalie Clifford Barney
Only in love are unity and duality not in conflict. ~Rabindranath Tagore
Love burns across the infinitude. ~Meriel Stelliger
It is astonishing how little one feels alone when one loves. ~John Bulwer
'Tis sweet to know there is an eye will mark our coming, and look brighter when we come. ~Lord Byron
A hundred hearts would be too few
To carry all my love for you.
~Author Unknown
Love is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots. ~Author unknown, as printed in The Hoosier Farmer
Love is an exploding cigar we willingly smoke. ~Lynda Barry
Those who are faithful know only the trivial side of love; it is the faithless who know love's tragedies. ~Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1891
Love doesn't sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all of the time, made new. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Love is not singular except in syllable. ~Marvin Taylor
Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old. ~John Ciardi
People who are sensible about love are incapable of it. ~Douglas Yates
Love never reasons but profusely gives; gives, like a thoughtless prodigal, its all, and trembles lest it has done too little. ~Hannah Moore
Ah me! why may not love and life be one? ~Henry Timrod
Take away love and our earth is a tomb. ~Robert Browning
Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds. ~William Shakespeare, "Sonnet CXVI"
He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began. ~Leo Tolstoy
It is the same in love as in war; a fortress that parleys is half taken. ~Marguerite de Valois
You don't have to go looking for love when it's where you come from. ~Werner Erhard
No one can understand love who has not experienced infatuation. And no one can understand infatuation, no matter how many times he has experienced it. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
Love me and the world is mine. ~David Reed
It would be impossible to "love" anyone or anything one knew completely. Love is directed towards what lies hidden in its object. ~Paul Valéry, Tel quel, 1943
The love game is never called off on account of darkness. ~Tom Masson
They who meet on an April night are forever lost in love, if there's moonlight all about and there's no moon above. ~E.Y. "Yip" Harburg and Fred Saidy, dialogue just before the song "Old Devil Moon" in the musical Finian's Rainbow (Thanks, Katherine!)
Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence. ~David Byrne
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. ~Robert Frost
You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~Dr. Seuss
Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place. ~Zora Neale Hurston
Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same. ~Emily Brontë
The excesses of love soon pass, but its insufficiencies torment us forever. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
An old man in love is like a flower in winter. ~Portuguese Proverb
Will you love me in December as you do in May,
Will you love me in the good old fashioned way?
When my hair has all turned gray,
Will you kiss me then and say,
That you love me in December as you do in May?
~James J. Walker
Love unlocks doors and opens windows that weren't even there before. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
Great love affairs start with Champagne and end with tisane. ~Honoré de Balzac
Love withers under constraints: its very essence is liberty: it is compatible neither with obedience, jealousy, nor fear: it is there most pure, perfect, and unlimited where its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. ~Percy Bysshe Shelley
Love is the poetry of the senses. ~Honoré de Balzac
Love is a game that two can play and both win. ~Eva Gabor
Without love, the rich and poor live in the same house. ~Author Unknown
The heart is a small thing, but desireth great matters. It is not sufficient for a kite's dinner, yet the whole world is not sufficient for it. ~Francis Quarles, Emblems
Love is like those second-rate hotels where all the luxury is in the lobby. ~Paul-Jean Toulet
We don't believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack. ~Marie Ebner Von Eschenbach, Aphorism
It's hard to defeat a woman in love. ~Destin Figuier
All love is probationary, a fact which frightens women and exhilarates men. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen. ~François, duc de La Rochefoucauld
Some women love only what they can hold in their arms; others, only what they can't. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
Love, and a cough, cannot be hid. ~George Herbert, Jacula Prudentum, 1651
Desire creates havoc when it is the only thing between two people, or when it is what's missing. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
Poetry spills from the cracks of a broken heart, but flows from one which is loved. ~Christopher Paul Rubero
A man is not where he lives, but where he loves. ~Latin Proverb
The arms of love encompass you with your present, your past, your future, the arms of love gather you together. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Southern Mail, 1929, translated from French by Curtis Cate
I need the starshine of your heavenly eyes,
After the day's great sun.
~Charles Hanson Towne
A lover is a man who tries to be more amiable than it is possible for him to be. ~Nicholas de Chamfort
Love is not consolation. It is light. ~Friedrich Nietzsche
True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked. ~Erich Segal
Loving is never a waste of time. ~Astrid Alauda
Love in action is a harsh and dreadful thing compared with love in dreams. ~Fyodor Dostoevski
True love is a discipline in which each divines the secret self of the other and refuses to believe in the mere daily self. ~William Butler Yeats
Mumps, measles, and puppy love are terrible after twenty. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. ~Author Unknown
Love is what you've been through with somebody. ~James Thurber, quoted in Life magazine, 1960
Love is being stupid together. ~Paul Valery
In this horror of solitude, this need to lose his ego in exterior flesh, which man calls grandly the need for love. ~Charles Baudelaire
Open your heart and take us in,
Love - love and me.
~W.E. Henley
Before I met my husband, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times. ~Rita Rudner
Love does not care to define and is never in a hurry to do so. ~Charles du Bos
I love you like crazy, baby
'Cuz I'd go crazy without you.
~Pixie Foudre
What "love" is I don't know if it's not the response of our deepest natures to one another. ~William Carlos Williams
I learned the real meaning of love. Love is absolute loyalty. People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades. You can depend so much on certain people, you can set your watch by them. And that's love, even if it doesn't seem very exciting. ~Sylvester Stallone
Ah, lady, when I gave my heart to thee,
It passed into thy lifelong regency.
~Gilbert Parker
The heart has its reasons that reason knows nothing of. ~Blaise Pascal, Pensées, 1670
At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet. ~Plato
As soon go kindle fire with snow, as seek to quench the fire of love with words. ~William Shakespeare
Love floods us with hope. ~Jareb Teague
Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable. ~Bruce Lee
Life only starts when love comes. ~From the movie Bill of Divorcement, 1932
Tell me how many beads there are
In a silver chain
Of evening rain,
Unravelled from the tumbling main,
And threading the eye of a yellow star: -
So many times do I love again.
~Thomas Lovell Beddoes
A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy. ~George Jean Nathan
Love makes time pass; time makes love pass. ~French Proverb
True love stories never have endings. ~Richard Bach (Thanks, Bonnie)
I love you as you are, but do not tell me how that is. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin
There's nothing more freeing than the shackles of love. ~Emma Racine deFleur
When you're attracted to someone it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously, so what we know as fate is two neuroses knowing that they're a perfect match. ~Jeff Arch, Nora Ephron, and David S. Ward, Sleepless in Seattle
Platonic love is love from the neck up. ~Thyra Smater Winsolow
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. ~Tom Robbins
The eskimos had fifty-two names for snow because it was important to them: there ought to be as many for love. ~Margaret Atwood
You really shouldn't say "I love you" unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget. ~Author unknown, attributed to an 8-year-old named Jessica
So dear I love him, that with him all deaths I could endure, without him live no life. ~John Milton
Nobody has ever measured, even poets, how much a heart can hold. ~Zelda Fitzgerald
Men love because they are afraid of themselves, afraid of the loneliness that lives in them, and need someone in whom they can lose themselves as smoke loses itself in the sky. ~V.F. Calverton
Love is the most important thing in the world, but baseball is pretty good too. ~Author unknown, attributed to an 8-year-old named Greg
Lust fades, so you'd better be with someone who can stand you. ~Alan Zweibel and Jessie Nelson, The Story of Us
Ah! a blessing beyond all fate
My sole mate 'tis my soul mate.
~Pixie Foudre
The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved - loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves. ~Victor Hugo
Love is the greatest refreshment in life. ~Pablo Picasso
I was half in love with her by the time we sat down. That's the thing about girls. Every time they do something pretty, even if they're not much to look at, or even if they're sort of stupid, you fall half in love with them, and then you never know where the hell you are. ~J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye, 1945
Love means nothing in tennis, but it's everything in life. ~Author Unknown
What the world really needs is more love and less paper work. ~Pearl Bailey
Love, love, love - all the wretched cant of it, masking egotism, lust, masochism, fantasy under a mythology of sentimental postures. ~Germaine Greer
We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person. ~W. Somerset Maugham
We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. ~Author Unknown
Love is a canvas furnished by Nature and embroidered by imagination. ~Voltaire
Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs. ~William Shakespeare
While God waits for His temple to be built of love, men bring stones. ~Rabindranath Tagore
Love is metaphysical gravity. ~R. Buckminster Fuller
Love is my religion - I could die for it. ~John Keats
Love is the self-delusion we manufacture to justify the trouble we take to have sex. ~Dan Greenburg
Love would never be a promise of a rose garden unless it is showered with light of faith, water of sincerity and air of passion. ~Author Unknown
Just because somebody doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. ~Author Unknown
If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular? ~Author Unknown
Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart. ~Author Unknown
Love is missing someone whenever you're apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you're close in heart. ~Kay Knudsen
Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another. ~Henry Louis Mencken
You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them laugh, but you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes them cry. ~Author Unknown
Sometimes we make love with our eyes. Sometimes we make love with our hands. Sometimes we make love with our bodies. Always we make love with our hearts. ~Author Unknown
True love is when you put someone on a pedestal, and they fall - but you are there to catch them. ~Author Unknown
You know when you have found your prince because you not only have a smile on your face but in your heart as well. ~Author Unknown
Love puts the fun in together, the sad in apart, and the joy in a heart. ~Author Unknown
Trip over love, you can get up. Fall in love and you fall forever. ~Author Unknown
Love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image... otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. ~Author Unknown
Love is not blind - it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less. ~Julins Gordon
To the world you might be one person, but to one person you might be the world. ~Author Unknown
No one has ever loved anyone the way everyone wants to be loved. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
It's so easy to fall in love but hard to find someone who will catch you. ~Author Unknown
When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving oneself, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. ~Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray
Candle light, moon light, star light,
The brightest glow is from love light.
~Grey Livingston
Love is the silent saying and saying of a single name. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
Come live in my heart and pay no rent. ~Samuel Lover
Romance is dead - it was acquired in a hostile takeover by Hallmark and Disney, homogenized, and sold off piece by piece. ~Lisa Simpson, The Simpsons
If love does not know how to give and take without restrictions, it is not love, but a transaction that never fails to lay stress on a plus and a minus. ~Emma Goldman, The Tragedy of Women's Emancipation
I but know that I love thee, whatever thou art. ~Thomas Moore
Love isn't blind, it's retarded. ~Don Foster and Susan Beavers, Two and a Half Men
Free love? as if love is anything but free. Man has bought brains, but all the millions in the world have failed to buy love. ~Emma Goldman, Marriage and Love
Love is the child of illusion and the parent of disillusion. ~Miguel de Unamuno
If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than because he was he, and I was I. ~Michel de Montaigne
I don't wish to be everything to everyone, but I would like to be something to someone. ~Javan
Like I've always said, love wouldn't be blind if the braille weren't so damned much fun. ~Armistead Maupin, Maybe the Moon (Thanks, David)
Part of the reason that men seem so much less loving than women is that men's behavior is measured with a feminine ruler. ~Francesca M. Cancian
What I need to live has been given to me by the earth. Why I need to live has been given to me by you. ~Author Unknown
If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden. ~Claudia Ghandi
Falling in love is so hard on the knees. ~Aerosmith
In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged. ~Hans Nouwens
Like everybody who is not in love, he thought one chose the person to be loved after endless deliberations and on the basis of particular qualities or advantages. ~Marcel Proust, Remembrance of Things Past: Cities of the Plain, 1922
In springtime, love is carried on the breeze. Watch out for flying passion or kisses whizzing by your head. ~Emma Racine deFleur
The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost. ~G.K. Chesterton
I think we dream so we don't have to be apart so long. If we're in each other's dreams, we can play together all night. ~Bill Watterson, Calvin & Hobbes
Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else. ~George Bernard Shaw
The simple lack of her is more to me than others' presence. ~Edward Thomas
[W]hen you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. ~Nora Ephron, When Harry Met Sally
Feel-good Sayings
* I’ve learned that the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
* I’ve learned that when you’re in love, it shows.
* I’ve learned that just one person saying to me, "You’ve made my day!" makes my day.
* I’ve learned that having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
* I’ve learned that being kind is more important than being right.
* I’ve learned that you should never say no to a gift from a child.
* I’ve learned that I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.
* I’ve learned that no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.
* I’ve learned that sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
* I’ve learned that simple talks with my parents when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
* I’ve learned that life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
* I’ve learned that we should be glad God doesn’t give us every thing we ask for.
* I’ve learned that money doesn’t buy class.
* I’ve learned that it’s those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
* I’ve learned that under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
* I’ve learned that the Lord didn’t do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
* I’ve learned that to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
* I’ve learned that when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
* I’ve learned that love, not time, heals all wounds.
* I’ve learned that the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
* I’ve learned that everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
* I’ve learned that there’s nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks.
* I’ve learned that no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
* I’ve learned that life is tough, but I’m tougher.
* I’ve learned that opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
* I’ve learned that when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
* I’ve learned that I wish I could have told my Mom & Dad that I loved them one more time before they passed away.
* I’ve learned that one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
* I’ve learned that a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
* I’ve learned that I can’t choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.
* I’ve learned that when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you’re hooked for life.
* I’ve learned that everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness comes while you’re climbing it.
* I’ve learned that the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.
Chilling and thought-provoking story
Everything God does is done with perfection. Yet, my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is God’s plan reflected in my son?"
The audience was stilled by the query. The father continued.
"I believe," the father answered, "that when God brings a child like Shay into the world, an opportunity to realize the Divine Plan presents itself. And it comes in the way people treat that child."
Then, he told the following story: Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball.
Shay asked, "Do you think they will let me play?"
Shay’s father knew that most boys would not want him on their team. But the father understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging.
Shay’s father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance from his teammates.
Getting none, he took matters into his own hands and said, "We are losing by six runs, and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we’ll try to put him up to bat in the ninth inning."
In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.
At the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the outfield. Although no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands.
In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay’s team scored again. Now, with two outs and bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base.
Shay was scheduled to be the next at-bat. Would the team actually let Shay bat at this juncture and give away their chance to win the game?
Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.
However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher moved a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least be able to make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.
The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly toward Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball to the pitcher.
The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could easily have thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have ended the game.
Instead, the pitcher took the ball and threw it on a high arc to right field, far beyond reach of the first baseman.
Everyone started yelling, "Shay, run to first. Run to first." Never in his life had Shay ever made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled "Run to second, run to second!"
By the time Shay was rounding first base, the right fielder had the ball. He could have thrown the ball to the second baseman for a tag. But the right fielder understood what the pitcher’s intentions had been, so he threw the ball high and far over the third baseman’s head.
Shay ran towards second base as the runners ahead of him deliriously circled the bases towards home.
As Shay reached second base, the opposing shortstop ran to him, turned him in the direction of third base, and shouted, "Run to third!"
As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams were screaming, "Shay! Run home!" Shay ran home, stepped on home plate and was cheered as the hero, for hitting a "grand slam" and winning the game for his team.
"That day," said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, "the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of the Divine Plan into this world."
So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice: Do we pass along a spark of the Divine? Or do we pass up that opportunity, and leave the world a bit colder in the process?
Chemical contraceptives
Friday, February 13, 2009
*Spermicides (that is, chemicals which destroy sperms) were quite widely used until recently. One advantage of these products is that you can buy them from any pharmacy without prescription. But these agents really shouldn't be employed on their own, because they're not effective enough. If you use them by themselves, there's a high chance that sperm will get through sometimes - and cause pregnancy. So, all family planning experts agree that chemical contraception should only be used in combination with a 'barrier method' - such as a condom, diaphragm or a cap. The chemicals make these barrier methods more effective.
In other words, fewer pregnancies will occur if you use a condom, diaphragm or cap with a spermicidal chemical. From time to time, manufacturers may suggest that these agents are so good that they can be used on their own! Don't pay any attention to these claims. However, if you’re both really desperate to make love, then a chemical contraceptive is certainly better than nothing at all.
How do chemical contraceptives work?
They mainly work by killing sperm inside the vagina. They do this because they contain a spermicide - that is, an agent which attacks sperm. The commonest spermicide used in these products is called nonoxinol-‘9’. How do you use them?You put them into the vagina before intercourse. Either the woman or the man can do this. Some couples actually make it part of love play! In the case of solid preparations, you must give them time (say, 30 minutes) to dissolve before you start having sex. Follow the instructions on the leaflet in the package.
What types of chemical contraceptives are there?
There are various kinds and which one you choose is up to you. Generally people make their choice on the basis of what appeals to them aesthetically. For instance, one couple may prefer the feel, appearance and taste of foam, while others prefer the simplicity of a vaginal tablet.
The main types are as follows.
*Foams - These are in aerosol form and you insert them into the vagina with a special applicator, immediately before sex.
*Vaginal tablets - These are also widely known as pessaries. In some books about sex, you may still find them referred to as 'suppositories'. This term has now been dropped - because most people understand the word 'suppository' to mean something put into the rectum. As they’re solid, you must give them time (half an hour) to dissolve before you nake love.
*Gels, jellies and creams - These are mainly intended for spreading onto contraceptive diaphragms or caps before insertion.
*Films - Squares of contraceptive film are still marketed in some countries, though they have fallen out of favour in the UK. At one time, manufacturers suggested that the film should be put on the tip of the penis before the start of intercourse. This is very risky, and I do not recommend it! It will probably fall off.
*Sponges - Sponges containing spermicide were popular back in the 1990s but have now rather dropped out of fashion in Western countries, due to a high pregnancy rate (24 per cent in one recent trial). A new type of sponge is due to be marketed in the UK during 2006, and it could certainly be of help to women whose fertility is already low - for instance, those over the age of 45, and breastfeeding mothers.
Can chemicals harm you?
Various fragrances, colourings and other components are contained in spermicidal products. Not surprisingly, both men and women can become allergic to these ingredients. Symptoms of allergy include soreness, swelling, redness and itching. If allergy occurs, take medical advice and then switch to another product (or method).Nonoxinol-‘9’ has recently been shown to cause vaginal irritation in some women who use a great deal over a long period of time. But unless you are having sex all day long, this is unlikely to apply to you.At present, there is no information as to whether spermicidal products could harm a baby, if pregnancy occurred. Please note that in some countries, pharmacists may still be selling old-fashioned spermicidal products which can attack rubber. These products, which are mainly oil-based, could make holes in rubber condoms or caps.
Will spermicidal chemicals protect you against disease?
No. There has been some publicity about the fact that nonoxinol-'9' has an anti-germ action. Nonetheless, it cannot give you any worthwhile protection against chlamydia, HIV or other sex infections.
Will spermicidal chemicals last all night?
No. In general, spermicides are only effective for about 45 to 60 minutes. If you go on having sex longer than that (or if you have sex twice), you need to insert a top-up of spermicide.What brands are available?This varies from country to country. The only brand on sale in the UK in 2008 is Gygel, which is a gel that won't harm condoms, diaphragms or caps.
Perspiration
A common problem among us all through out the summer season is perspiration or sweating.
What is Perspiration?
It is an internal fluid consisting mainly of water and salt that exits through the pours of your skin, to help cool down the body. It may occur during or after exercise, while sitting in the beautiful sunshine or when feelings of nervousness and anxiety are experienced. Perspiration can be handled in various ways and below is some information on what causes excessive perspiration and what you can do to help prevent it.
Common Causes:
-Genes: Some people inherit the unfortunate trait of excessive sweating, especially on the palms or soles of their feet.
-Diet: Drinking hot beverages and especially those with caffeine or alcohol. Eating spicy food can have a sweating affect.
-Fevers: Occurs when the body's temperature rises above its normal level and reacts by sweating excessively to help cool the body down at an efficient rate.
-Low Blood Sugar (hypoglycemia): Common in those who have diabetes. Common symptoms of hypoglycemia include sweating, shakiness, weakness, hunger, dizziness and nausea.
-Menopause: Women experiencing menopause have hot flashes which causes a rise in temperature accompanied by sweating and feeling of intense heat (due to drop in estrogen levels).
-Low Levels of Male Hormones: Men with low testosterone levels (condition known as hypogonadism) caused by reduced functioning of the testicles can also experience hot flashes.
Reducing Perspiration:
-Bathe Daily: Prevents bacteria from growing on the skin's surface, which causes an odor when mixed with perspiration.
-Dry Thoroughly After Bathing: Bacteria thrive on damp spaces.
-Wear Proper Foot Wear: Shoes made of natural material (such as leather) help feet breathe. Wear socks made of cotton or wool and pantyhose with cotton soles as they help keep feet dry by absorbing any moisture.
-Choose Natural Fiber Clothing: Wear natural fabrics such as cotton, wool and silk, which allow your skin to breath. When exercising wear high tech fabrics that keep moisture away from the skins surface.
-Relaxation Techniques:
If stress is a factor, try yoga or meditation; it may help you to control your stress level, therefore lowering perspiration.
-Air Feet Out: Go barefoot when you can, or at least slip out of your shoes from time to time. This allows your feet to breath, helps keep them dry and cools down the entire body.
How to Love
Thursday, February 12, 2009
How to Love
Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most, if not all of us, will face. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.
Steps
*Say it. When you say the words I love you, they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
*Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well.
*Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
*Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you, do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
*Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.